How on earth do I tell my partner that I still love him and have loved him ever since we have met each other?
I am an emotionally cold person and hard to convince. It’s extremely difficult for me to convey what I feel or want to say or do.
If I am in a relationship with someone, time and again that person may feel neglected and not cared enough. That is why I have never been in a successful relationship before this, currently, I am happily married (nonetheless, the happiness is short-lived).
Everybody has got marriage problems and relationship sustainability doubts, but what about a person who is cold in nature, and sometimes become unresponsive to vulnerable situations. Nobody considers that a good thing. Everybody might think that either the person is selfish or less bothered with what’s going on around him. However, that is not the case with me.
I am bothered with whatever is happening around me, I take time to respond but till the time I respond, it’s too late for the other person to understand why I took the time or that I even care.
Situations can be tough and for cold people, we might hear some unpleasant things in our daily lives, but we are human too just lacking empathy. Does that make us difficult to live with? I don’t think so. Whatever happens, if your partner understands you they will stick around; but how long?
I know someone who has been in a relationship with a girl for five years, and she couldn’t handle his extreme mood swings and absence in the middle of the night. She used to endure him like bitter medicine for a disease which had no cure, his mood and his lack of empathy.
She cried and begged him to stay after an argument where he is at fault; she apologized and even cut herself. Who is listening to her? The person who is supposed to listen, he is in another world busy with his guitar and smoking weeds.
Five years is a long time to judge a person and understand what they are going to be like when you are to spend an entire lifetime with them, where they won’t even acknowledge your presence. By the time the guy realized what he had lost, the girl had become emotionally distant and unresponsive. She was with him physically and yet so far emotionally.
He could literally feel the coldness from her presence and the way she used to talk to him, it lacks the warmth of her love and affection which she had earlier when he was just like her, cold and distant.
I am slowly going on that verge of coldness, no one to blame here for that. That is who I am and this is what I feel. My partner is a very warm and jolly person, he has been enduring me for long nine years and yet he refused to leave long back when I had told him my intentions and tendency of going cold over time.
I can see and listen everything he does for my attention yet I cannot acknowledge his actions because I do not know the art of expressing my feelings, I do sometimes but rarely he is there to watch it.
He takes care of me when I am cold and gives me time to revive and return to my natural self on my own pace. He doesn’t rush, but deep down I know there is a limit to everything, to human emotions as well.
Very few people can revive a damaged soul, I have found mine. Have you?
Let me know in the comments section.
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I have been int that situation before, it is very difficult going through that not being able to say your feelings….lot’s of human just can’t deal with you…so so sorry, it’s indeed a touching one, thanks for sharing.
True, this was a case with me and I have struggled a lot. But thanks to my better half for supporting me through hard times. Thanks for reading 🙂
That would be a tough conversation to have.
Agreed! Thanks for reading. 🙂
It can be very difficult to convey your feelings, and to let someone who you love know that you truly love them. Perhaps showing it through your actions, as I’m sure that you do, is the key.
Yes absolutely, for a cold person who has trouble letting people know about how she feels verbally, might as well depend on action which will at least be a comfort for the person she loves.
Thanks for the read 🙂
I’ve been in a similar situation, it is very very difficult but with time I started to manage my own expectations which is not a good solution. It is tough…Thanks for sharing.
I agree, even I have faced similar situation where it was difficult and became awkward for me to be numb and stare blankly at the other person who is expressing how he feels.
thanks for reading 🙂
the conversation will definately be a though one to strike, but sometimes the best way to face your fears is to take the bull by the horn. silence is a killer.
Yes, and silence can make you regret later on in life of not speaking for the person that you don’t wanna lose. Thanks for reading 🙂
I agree that it can be difficult to convey your feelings, but I think you have to just jump in and get out of your comfort zone. Even if it’s just a little at a time. Actions can always show how much you love someone.
Action speak a lot louder than words, which is what I have been following, and to be honest it has got a lot easier for me to deal with such situations. Thanks for reading. 🙂
Though its difficult but you have to tell him one day. So go girl and speak out. He will definitely understand your feelings
Yes, and this fear of going cold in situations where I actually need to speak has already made me regret a lot. Am trying not to lose the one I love because of this. Thanks for reading. 🙂
I have to say I have been around a cold person. It really wasn’t fun. I’m sure it’s worth it to the person, for that one who will stick in, but all of the hurting heart prior to that, is really tough to take.
Very intense read. The only way is to face our fears and fight back. You are blessed to have such a loving partner.
That’s great you have found the person that can help you in those moments. I know my ex had her own issues like that. And it’s not easy handling those issues sometimes, especially when they become directed at you. What’s good for you is that eventually, you turn around which makes things easier to handle the difficult times. When there is no turn around then it really never becomes possible to last.
This is so great and inspiring. I love this story. Brought tears to my eyes.
Sometimes when we are at the same place for a long time, the mind often gets clogged. So it very important to travel to change places which can help in learning from situations and many a times change our perspectives.
It can be difficult to convey emotions. I sometimes have a hard time saying what I feel but I found that writing it out seems to help.