Do you know any such person, who was once the closest to you and then if you see the current picture, you are nothing more than strangers? We both really don’t know what happened. There’s no fight or war between us, but things suddenly don’t seem to work anymore. It’s very easy to become best friends and then again back to stranger mode, but any idea why/how does this happen?
The voluntary nature of friendship makes it subject to life’s whims in a way more formal relationship aren’t. In adulthood, as people grow up and go away, friendships are the relationships most likely to take a blow.
We all know these happens to us, and we are aware of the consequences, now let us have a look at the reason, why does it happen in the first place.
There could be multiple reasons for the same, and those are:
Change in priorities
We all know how People change, people develop. In all these changes and developing environment, friendship fades gradually. Its ok to change.
There are different stages in our life, and there are different requirements, challenges and priorities in our life. For example, we really found it very difficult to live without our mothers when we were small, but now, if we look at our life priorities, it is not the same. Same way, the priorities keep changing, and the worst part is we can’t do anything about it.
You’re stuck with your family, and you’ll prioritize your spouse. But where once you could run over to your bestie’s house at a moment’s notice and see if he could come out to play, now you must ask if your friend has a couple hours to get a drink in two weeks.
Relocation or remote jobs
We change our cities, looking for better jobs, career aspects and growth. This is the time where we focus about our career and friendship takes a back seat. It is not possible for us to keep in touch always because of our time management and busy schedules. Nowadays, with advancing technologies we have flexible options like working from home, this is the time, where it decreases our social engagements as well.
Some friends are great to have. But they’re also toxic and they try to influence our life in the way they want. There comes a point in life where you finally realize what a bad influence they are on you. And you decide you’re better off without them. Maybe you were best friends, buddies but experiences teach us better than we expected.
When we are going through our adulthood, it’s one of the most tough time of our lives. Some of us struggle. Some are lucky. Those who start in the same time, start to get complex. You might think that you are ok with that because your friends are getting there, but you are not because you haven’t. So, you or your friend start to take a different way.
Getting new friends and partners
Life is all about making new friends, trying out different relationships, flings, one-night stands, time pass, complicate relationships and dealing with egoistic friends. In this hustle and bustle, we forget one person: our best friend. That’s where the person is affected, and we are clearly unaware of the fact because we are busy in our own fairylands.
To conclude, I must say that these are very sensitive and critical situations, which should be handled very carefully and with utmost care, otherwise it may result into unnecessary arguments and issues.
We all understand that how painful it is, we need to take it in a mature way. For example, not shouting our personal problems in social media, not creating unnecessary scenes in the public places, not cooperating with one another when the other one needs help.
I know it is not possible to swallow your ego all the time and make things correct every time things go out of the way. It is also not possible all the times because our self-respect won’t allow us to do so.
If you would like to restore the situation, or at least want to give it a try, considering going through my post Let’s try to fix it.
In this best-friend/stranger relationship, let’s not forget the good times that we people had together, when we were good friends, let’s not enable other people to enjoy the situation. Let’s maintain minimum courtesy, and if possible, parting ways mutually so that none of them are affected.
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